A moon or A candle?
do you think that you decide? i'm sorry, the answer is somewhat "no"!
it's clear that it's almost not possible, and not even moral, to divide people into some groups just based on a single trait. but for simplicity, we may model them based on almost everything. in this essay, i want to talk about people, based on my personal definitions and division. "moon" persons and "candle" persons.
i should also emphasize that i'm not gonna have a real scientific view here. this essay is even a bit nearer to emotional texts, and all i'm gonna talk about are my personal feelings (and also thoughts) which may be worth reading.
There are two types of people: “moon” persons and “candle” persons
if you're one of my near friends, you may have heard that i sometimes use these words for people and you may have some assumptions about what i mean by them. but let's define them again.
candle persons: the people who decide short-term, and believe that you'd better have today's benefit, not tomorrow's 10x benefit.
moon persons: the people who decide long-term, and are ambitious enough not to settle for a candle.
these definitions may seem simple, but they aren't. this is why i want to talk more about them and their properties.
the people i call candle-person aren't necessarily bad. in this way, moon persons aren't always good ones! the correlation between being good and being a moon person is even almost the opposite! most of the candle-person people i know are good, kind, and lovely. i also haven't met many good and moon people at the same time!
all i’m talking about is my “limited” experience. but, to do almost everything, i'm looking for those moon people who are good and kind at the same time! i know that they exist. because i know some of them. but, you know, they are “unbelievably” rare!
Why Long-term Thinkers are “Unbelievably” Rare?
i intentionally choose to use this word, unbelievable, for them. because they're rare and their unreal, fake, and super-similar versions are unfortunately everywhere!
i don't know if you have got this experience or not, but in my journey, in the last years, i have met a tons of people who want to be (or at least show that they are) a moon person, but they can’t! because being a moon person isn't a thing you pursue for itself. you have to change your “being”, your inner self, in order to become a real moon person! and it's not a simple process.
you may have this chance to be born with this mindset. or grow up in a family that tends you to be a moon person. but if you, for yourself, want to change from a candle person to something near to a moon person, i have a piece of bad news for you. you are gonna have a lot of problems. to be honest, you will lose almost everything, from friends to even views and beliefs. because your entire worldview has been shaped by being a candle person for the whole of your life and the life you may choose as a moon-person isn't even a bit similar to that previous candle one!
but if you want to achieve something really great (in my view), you need this. you have to suffer on this path and build a personality that can achieve those big things. but if you're not that ambitious, there's no actual problem. because you can have a really good life with less amount of suffering and even achieve almost all the things you may want. but not exactly ALL!
so i used those words, unbelievably rare, for this purpose to ensure you that if you find one of them, try not to lose them, at any price!
Do You Really Want to Be a Moon Person?
many people believe that they are long-term thinkers, preferring long-term benefits over short-term ones. but, to be honest, they're lying. they don't even know how hard it is to be a long-term, better-called moon, person!
i know someone who wanted to be on this path. but she couldn't even handle the first week’s pressure! she knew that it was gonna be hard, but she tried many times and at the end, found out that living as a moon person didn't actually fit her life. you may have a similar situation. but i want to tell those who think that "being a moon person isn't worthy" that you're wrong!
in my view, being a moon person, by itself, is worthy! but if you put a lot of hard and smart work into its path, you will achieve things that no, and literally no, candle person can even be near to it. and this is the magic of being a moon person.
but i should mention that those great things i am talking about may are NOT the same as you may think. i'm not talking about wealth, health, and even a pleasurable life. as you (and i) know, many candle people are really really rich, healthy, beautiful, and every other thing you may consider as a part of a pleasurable life. but i don't know a person who is a candle person and achieves something super-great, something that the next generations won't forget. something that changes the world!
the lines you read were from my personal notes i write constantly. and i know that they're not structured enough. they may have some grammatical and even scientific errors. but i hope that you found them useful and worthy.
in the future, i will write more of them, especially about the concept of "long-term" (let's call it moon-minded person) which i think is the most underrated thing about choosing people (for almost anything). i hope that future notes become better and better and i'm grateful to thank you for being with me on this beautiful journey!
you can always find me at sina80mor@gmail.com and let's chat! :)
sina
may 31, 2024
To be a moon person you need to understand what things you won't find a better version of in the future. Being a moon person is different from always wanting and trying for a better version of things in your life. You need to learn when to stop searching.