if x is reasonably good, then un-x-people like that x, but not the x-people.
+ an advice on the concept of infinite thinking.
this evening, i was thinking about people, like many other evenings. :) but when i considered most of the people i've seen in my life and what they really admire in people, i noticed two different things: 1) the people themselves, 2) and how they are. these are two different things, as you probably agree, but i've reached a conclusion about admiring those different things that i want to share with you.
in my experience, and as a general principle, un-x people (people who don't have x) like x, but not people who have x. this means that when a group of people or an individual likes something reasonably good (for example, "mental health"), they really want to achieve it, but they don't like the people who have achieved that thing.
to think about it, consider some other examples, i.e. unhealthy people like health, but not healthy people. poor people like wealth, but not wealthy people. (i know that there are some exceptions, but they're arguably negligible). that’s came from their envy, but it’s a bit more complex in my mind.
why? i think it's an old habit that we think if someone achieves something, that means we won't achieve it, or if we ourselves achieve that thing, that thing will be less valuable. this “finite mindset” has shaped our minds, and it's not easy to change. most of those who think they're thinking in an infinite way, who believe in enlarging the pie, etc., are actually finite thinkers themselves, and you can assess them simply by i.e. how happy they become after seeing other people's successes! that's a big and important indicator for me, and it works greatly.
how to assess? share some success stories with them and see their reactions. it has become a normal thing in our society that if someone has achieved something great, we react with negative words, either about them or about others, and we think it's cool. but it isn't. if they assess you based on your reaction, you won't be their friends anymore, and that's maybe a bad thing, no?
this important thing is not only a great indicator of finite-minded people, but also a great starting point for thinking infinitely! so my advice (!) to those who want to think infinitely, as i have tried in the last 4 years, is to be as happy as you can when you see other people's successes and good things. it's even true about people we don't even know, and it's not only an indicator that you're an infinite thinker (which may not be a tangible thing for normal people), but also a great sign that you're a reliable and good person, even for normal people! so that's a good thing to try. you won't regret it!
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